Do You Need a Break From the Dating Scene?

Dating can be frustrating. Sometimes it goes well, sometimes you meet someone you like and they don’t like you. Sometimes you meet a woman who really likes you a lot (way too much) and you wish she’d go away.

Sometimes you can’t get a date to save your life, and then you’ll have too many at once and you just want some alone time. You may even feel like you need to take a break from the dating scene.

When you feel exhausted from all of the time, effort and money you’re putting into dating, it might be time to take a break, even if it’s only for a little while. Just to regain a sense of control over your life and to rethink your dating goals.

If you’ve had a bad experience, you might need some time off to figure out where you’re headed. If you decide to take a break from the dating scene just because you’re tired and fed up, you can spend your "break" simply resting.

But you should also be doing some other things as well. This time can be spent refocusing on what you want to accomplish by dating. Is your goal to meet a wife and the mother of your children or are you just looking to meet new and interesting women that you may or may not fall in love with in the future?

Are you just looking for someone to hang out with? You can also ask your self why you’re dating – is it because your family or friends are pressuring you to get married and have babies? Is grandma wondering when you’re going to make her a great-grandma?

All of these things can take the fun out of dating, turning it into a task, rather than an enjoyable social ritual. If you’re in the middle of upheaval at work in your family, this can put so much stress on you that dating becomes almost impossible.

If you need to take a break until things straighten out, that’s perfectly fine, and you shouldn’t feel guilty about it. Sometimes unforeseen events can take over your life and leave you with little energy for dating.

If you pressure yourself to keep dating or get back into dating to soon, you’ll be doing yourself (and the women you date) a huge disservice. Once you’ve dealt with the problems and questions at hand, you’ll be in much better shape to date again, and possible find the woman of your dreams.

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Dr. Molly Goodman is founder of the Goodman Institute For Better Sex.
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