Confidence Is Everything!

Spend some time honestly taking stock of what’s good about you. A warning here: if you use this time to pick yourself apart and find everything wrong with yourself, you’re on the wrong track.

Instead, take a break from putting yourself down and find some good points about you. Examples might be your great sense of humor, expressive eyes, excellent physical condition, great smile, intelligence, ability to cook a killer meal, or financial stability.

Don’t just look at your physical self – think about personality traits, the hobbies you enjoy and are especially good at, or your ability to make people feel at ease around you.

Make a list of all the things that are cool about you – nothing is too small or ridiculous – these are the things that make you different and worthy of dates – you can build confidence around these things. If you still can’t think of what your best characteristics and talents are, ask your friends and loved ones.

Remember that if the women you date are intelligent and nice, they’re going to realize that you’re not perfect and neither are they. What if she doesn’t like every single thing about you?

This doesn’t mean anything. If she likes enough things about you, your imperfections will be overlooked. This goes both ways and it’s just the way dating works. If she’s looking for complete perfection in a man, you don’t want her anyway – no one is going to be able to really make her happy – not even Brad Pitt.

Project confidence. Confidence is projected first by body language and then by how you speak to her. If you’re looking relaxed and comfortable (but not slovenly) you’ll project an air of confidence. This means standing or sitting straight, but not being too rigid.

A smile and eye contact are very important. Shifting positions every few seconds, not making eye contact, slouching and seeming distracted will make her think you’re not interested or that you have something to hide.

Giving her a list of all of the things you don’t like about yourself is the kiss of death, so don’t do it. Mumbling is a bad idea, too. Instead, you can convey confidence when speaking by speaking clearly and positively. You don’t have to be a smiling goon, but spreading doom and gloom isn’t going to do anything for you, either.