Align Your Interests With Your Dating Scene

Here’s a surefire way to meet Mrs. Right – use your hobbies and interests to expand your circle of friends and acquaintances. By using your interests to get out and meet new people, you’re going to find great ways to have fun just by doing what you like to do and greatly increase your chances of finding a date who enjoys the same activities.

This is important in dating. If you meet someone who is fantastic in the looks department, but she has no interest at all in any of the things that you like, you’re going to be bored after a very short while.

Here’s what you need to do: brainstorm all of the things you like to do, or even the things you’d like to try, but haven’t yet. Make a list of these things and then add the things you feel passionate about (the must-haves), like your dog, or college football, or playing bocce ball with your friends every third Saturday of the month.

Now that you have your list, think of all of the places and ways that you can incorporate these important hobbies and passions into your search for a date. Don’t just walk your dog around the same block you’ve been walking him for the last three years - go to a bark park if there’s one in your city, or choose a different dog-walking route where you might meet other dog lovers.

If your hobby is reading, certainly visit local bookstores, but go to author readings and the library – you’re sure to find other bibliophiles, right? If you want a date that’s as much into fitness as you are, look at the gym – but go at different times than you normally would to see who’s hanging out at the juice bar getting a protein shake.

This method for looking for dates that have similar interests is very effective. It might take some time, but it’s amazing where people meet and under what circumstances. You may be perusing the selection of new releases in the Reggae section of your local music store and meet the woman of your dreams.

All of your hobbies and interests are fair game. Even if they don’t seem significant, take some time developing your list and your strategies for finding new places that might present opportunities so that you can steer clear of the tired bar scene.

Don’t forget your deal breakers – if you have a dog and you insist that your date likes dogs too, the bark park is a good start. That’s not to say that someone you bump into at the coffee shop won’t like dogs – if she likes coffee and dogs – it’s a bonus!

Fish lover? Head for the specialty store. Tattoo aficionado? Go to a tattoo convention. Star Trek memorabilia collector? You know what to do. Dinosaur bones? Go to the museum of natural history.

If you aren’t worried about where your prospective love interest lives, you could always check out some online forums that have to do with your particular interests. You might meet someone near, or far away.

Start brainstorming your list today and begin making plans to visit these locations regularly. Don’t get discouraged if she doesn’t appear immediately. Be consistent about looking and give it some time.

-Dr. Molly Goodman

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Dr. Molly Goodman is founder of the Goodman Institute For Better Sex.
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