What’s a Good First Date Idea?

You’re planning to invite her out for your first date. If you’ll be inviting her to join you for something you’re already going to, you don’t need to worry about what to do. If you don’t have something planned, you need to figure out now what your first date will be.

You want to choose something that’s going to be fun for you both and which will give her a chance to see your most interesting and attractive side. You don’t want the date to be something that’s going to put a lot of pressure on either of you. First dates should be easy and casual.

One good way to plan a first date is to plan it for the day, rather than the evening. This gives the date a more casual feel and allows you to do things that make it very easy and comfortable for getting to know each other.

Such dates could be seeing a museum exhibit together, lunch, visiting a local amusement park or biking at the nature center. Choose something that you’ll both enjoy, based on what you know about her likes and dislikes.

Daytime dates are a good way to start things off, and if you find that you’re really having a great time, you can always extend it into the evening by suggesting you get dinner. If you’re planning on having an evening date for your first get together, you can always go for the traditional dinner and a movie, and that’s fine – it’s tried and true, but it’s a long time to sit with someone silently (in the theater).

Still, these types of dates often work well. Just be sure to choose a movie that she’ll like. If she tells you she hates horror movies, don’t take her to see the latest psycho-axe murderer flick. It will probably be your last date. Other good evening dates can be sports events, plays or concerts (but again, that’s a long time without any conversation), or a drink at the local piano bar.

Whatever you choose for your first date, it will be in your best interest to not make it too romantic. You’re still getting to know each other and pouring on the romance may scare her off.

You can do all the gentlemanly things that most women appreciate, such as opening her car door. Those gestures are usually welcomed. As far as physical contact, you might want to hold off on trying to hold her hand or kissing her until the next date.

If you lightly put your hand on the small of her back while escorting her to your table or theater seats, that’s probably okay, but if you sense her tensing up when you do that, stop immediately.

Just remember, when you’re choosing an activity for your first date, it’s often easier to start with something casual during the day. The pressure is off and you and she can relax and enjoy yourselves. Whether your date is during the day or in the evening, remember, it’s only the first date, so don’t go overboard with romantic gestures or attempted physical contact.

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Dr. Molly Goodman is founder of the Goodman Institute For Better Sex.
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