A Heartbroken Poem Will Not Fix A
Breakup

When you have suffered through a breakup, it would seem that
a heartbroken poem or quotes will fix things.
It will not fix things. If you want to get back together, ditch
the heartbroken poem and follow some hard but
effective steps to mending the relationship.
These steps seem like they would worsen the breakup. However
the world of relationships is not something
that makes sense or follows logic. The time where you think you
should call, you should not, and when you think you should be
as emotive as a heartbroken poem, when you should be more
stolid and steadfast.
The first step in fixing things is to accept that you need
to break up. Time apart will show both of you how much you want
to be together. Even more so, do not communicate, talk, call,
send a heartbroken poem, nothing. This extremely hard step will
serve to make coming back together even more powerful.
You should not wallow in self pity and sorrow. That leads to
the heartbroken poem and song. You should be taking action.
Making changes that fix your relationship should be your goal.
You need to figure out what went wrong and change that part of
your life. Otherwise you are set to stay apart.
It is your task to change and become better. It may seem
easier or more appropriate to send a heartbroken poem to get
back with the person you love. Romantic words and describing
your feelings would seem like it should make things better. The
intent is there, but it is likely to do more harm than
good.
The reason for the failure of the heartbroken poem is that your
ex-partner will likely read it the wrong way. It is full of
emotion and heart and such power. Here you are, shipping this
power to your ex as though it should change things will make
your ex recoil. It will be taken as a form of emotional black
mail, like you are going to “win.” This will only make your ex
defensive and recoil away.
You will also seem like you are dismissing your ex and their
needs. There might be real problems between you and your ex,
which need to be addressed and taken care of. What you end up
doing is writing a heartbroken poem hoping that it will solve
everything. All you will do is add insult to injury.
The best thing you can do is to give space and address your
problems yourself. Give plenty of space and try not to
communicate. Should both of you address the problems that are
plaguing your relationship, and you both make things such that
the relationship can come back together, then and only then
will things work out. And if things do not work out then you
just need to get over it and move on. Perhaps with an online
dating site; going that route will let jump right back in the
game.
What seems like it should work, will not work. Things in a
relationship do not follow logic or make sense. What should be
done is to work on personal growth, instead of trying to fix
your partner through talking, arguing, or sending the
heartbroken poem.
Try out Adult Friend Finder and get back in
the Game!

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