When Does a Nice Guy Go to Bed with a Woman?

Your moral compasses - Depending on your religious beliefs, upbringing and your own personal beliefs, you will make a decision about when is the right time for you. Likewise for her. After you’ve been dating for a while, you will learn how she feels about sex.

If the kisses are getting hotter and steamier, you will probably sense that she’s thinking about it too, but that doesn’t mean she’ll just fall into your bed. She may believe that sex should wait for marriage, or at least for a strong commitment. When the time is right, you may want to have a respectful conversation about it. But don’t pressure her.

Sometimes a woman is ready to get hot and heavy fairly quickly. This doesn’t necessarily mean that she’s a bad girl. She may have very open views about sex. If she’s willing and you are, then go for it. However, be aware that just because she’s having sex with you doesn’t mean she’s in love with you. She could be viewing the sex as simply a fun thing to do.

It’s best to wait until you and she are both sure that you like each other enough. Sometimes (not all the time), having sex makes either her or you (or both of you) think of commitment, as in, you really wanted each other, you did it, it was great, now you have to commit.

But here’s the thing – you might not really be ready to. This is confusing. Yes, people can have sex and not be committed. But for some people, having sex means having to make a commitment – this might be subconscious, but it’s there. You need to know whether a commitment is expected by either of you if you do the deed.

There’s a school of thought that says it will be better if you don’t rush into it, but rather give the anticipation and wanting on both sides plenty of time to build up a bit. It’s worth considering.